Two OppOnents, One Flag with Deidre Combs

Program Description

Are there people in your life who make you crazy? Do you sometimes walk out of a difficult encounter reeling, wondering what happened? How do you act with compassion when dealing with someone who really can hurt you? We’ve all been told our worst enemies can be our greatest teachers. But if you find it difficult to recite your multiplication tables through clenched teeth, Deidre Combs can help. She explains how to recognize the larger lessons available to both parties in a conflict, and unearth the real fears and failings hiding behind the anger and harsh words. That doesn’t mean you ignore the risks. Rather, she advises, enter the conflict knowing, “This is an opponent that can hurt me, but can also teach me how to become better. I might learn some new moves. I might learn information I didn’t have before. I’ll see the capabilities I have that I didn’t know were in there.” The result is a practical approach that will allow you to step into the fray with respect for your opponent, while still protecting yourself from harm. With practice you’ll be able to see how both of you are members of the same community, fighting the same battle. (Hosted by Justine Willis Toms)

Dr. Deidre Combs is a consultant, speaker, and credentialed mediator who coaches individuals and organizations to find the transformative possibilities of conflict. She is an interfaith minister and is the author of The Way of Conflict: Elemental Wisdom for Resolving Disputes and Transcending Differences (New World Library 2004) and Worst Enemy, Best Teacher: How to Survive and Thrive With Opponents, Competitors, and the People Who Drive You Crazy (New World Library 2005).

Topics Explored in this Dialogue:

• How your opponents can fuel your creativity
• When being rude can be a valuable skill
• How you can use the principles of martial arts to stand in the midst of conflict
• How your code of conduct can become your shield
• Why you should look for sparring partners
• How your sleeping habits may determine the outcome of your next conflict

Program Number: 3111              Host: Justine Willis Toms             Interview Date: 9/30/2005